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A Mathematician’s Apology

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Title reused from G.H. Hardy’s 1940 essay.

Apology: “something said or written in defense or justification of what appears to others to be wrong or of what may be liable to disapprobation” – Merriam Webster Unabridged


Premise: There are things to know.
Many of them we (collectively) do know, most of them we don’t, and quite a few of them we think we know and are wrong about. That could be everything for all I know.

But there are things out there to be known anyway. (I think… even that’s debated among epistemologists. It could be that the world is totally chaotic and any real knowledge is just a figment. I choose not to believe that.)

Hypothesis: It’s not just a few things which can be known; it is everything in the natural world. (Everything that does not operate off of chance, that is, such as the flow of water and the throwing of dice. But the things that do operate off chance can be known to do so.) If not by us humans, then by someone or, at least, in theory.

Everything in nature is knowable.

Reasoning: Everything in nature follows definite rules or laws – a thing either works one way or it works another. This order does not apply just to some things and not others. It applies to all things – growth, motion, aerodynamics, the circle of life, etc.

I believe this to be true because I know math.

Mathematics is a set of rules that govern nature. Math is nature’s blueprint and it offers us a view into how nature actually works.

Why this matters: The significance of this rests on our definition of nature. Is nature just the world of earth, air, fire, water, and non-human animals? That kind of stuff? Or does it extend to humans too? The answer is obvious. Of course it does. But we have imposed so many unnatural things upon ourselves and ways in which we maneuver within the rest of nature that we don’t tend to include ourselves in the definition.

We Follow the Rules

Since we are a part of nature then we too must follow the rules. Now, these rules can be broken and often are. Animals, for example, contain a blue print in our DNA which governs our growth. But there are influences outside of what is natural which can smudge that blueprint. Nevertheless, regardless of what unnatural end product we may observe, the way we are supposed to be is written.

The World Is Black And White

This is a premise upon which I base my beliefs and the way I act.

The world is black and white. Shades of grey are just ignorance.

Within nature, there are laws for everything – the way things fall, the way mammals feed their young, the foods which each creature needs, the way we grow, the movement of the stars, etc. And so I believe it is the same for humans. There is a program which we should be running – for child raising, for diet, for sport performance, for optimal memorization, for everything we do and every way we operate.

Discovering the Absolutes

In order to find out the way we are supposed to be we can look to the people who still live as a part of nature – we can look to hunter gatherers. If you cannot visit them directly you can observe them vicariously through others. Weston Price’s work Nutrition and Physical Degeneration is a great resource. There are travel videos such as Tribe which give us a glimpse into these other cultures. There are many books available now and even many videos and blogs about them.

But their ways too are rife with ignorance and nonsense. It seems that knowing nature is not an easy endeavor.

A Way Of Thinking

For me this is more than just supposition or theory. It is habit. My dad raised me in a web of absolutes and I went on to spend six years in college studying philosophy and math. My life has been a constant search for answers.

In math there were always answers and if I worked hard enough I could find them. Everywhere else I searched as though they were there. I still search. It’s what drives me. Some meditation or something might turn this tendency off but I like the way I am so I’m not seeking to change.

There Is a Lot To Know

I know (or think I know) some of it. I know some of it because I have chanced upon it. By that I mean I was set up in a particular situation that led me down a certain path. I was raised by a mom who loved literature and a dad who loved mechanics. We had a piano. My mom’s family came from a farm and so she fed us butter and believed in healthy food choices (not that she knew much about what those really were but she sparked the interest in me anyway).

So, after my short 34 years on this planet I think I know a thing or two about food and disease, music, math, bodies, and some other stuff. I continuously find myself to be wrong about things along the way (as we all do) and so I replace that bit of “knowledge” with another. But all the while believing my knowledge to

1. be knowledge and
2. be absolute.

We All Have Different Bits of Knowledge

Here is where I’m going with this:

Having knowledge of certain things doesn’t make me think I am better than those who don’t have it. This doesn’t make any sense and I don’t believe it. There is a whole lot to know. None of us can know it all (all of us can’t even know it all) and the things that each of us knows is pretty much a random selection of the way we’ve stumbled through this life.

But I probably come across supercilious sometimes because I do believe that there are aspects of the way I live which are better than aspects of the way other people live. (The converse is also true of course. We are all better or worse in different ways.)

Those aspects simply represent my small bag of knowledge. For example, I know (or believe that I know) that it is better for a baby to be carried most of the time rather than pushed in a stroller most of the time. I believe one of nature’s rules is that we carry our babies. We evolved to do this and we have not un-evolved to not do it. So, when I meet a person that doesn’t carry her child, I don’t think I am better than her because I carry mine (that is so completely ridiculous), I think that this one thing I do for my child is better. There are things she does which are better than some things that I do. She may have more patience than I have, maybe she is more loving, maybe so many things. But this one thing I do is better.

And I believe it is better because I believe the fabric of nature is ordered. There is a right way and a wrong way.

This is not judgment. This is just me observing reality based on my hypothesis.

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16 Comments

  1. Great post, Peggy. It really hashes out what many of the “trolls” out there seem to be confused about in the first place. It’s interesting because I finally got my parents to try a 30 day paleo diet. One of things my mom said to me was how much more aware of her food choices (and other people’s food choices) she became. When you come to what you believe to be a foundational truth, you can’t help but take notice of those who have not come to that same truth. Again, some people may argue that truth is relative to the person (which in some cases may be the case). For example, some people cannot tolerate nightshades or other food groups as well as some other people (thank you God that I am not allergic to eggs-I would die). This thought has helped me deal with something I’ve been struggling with too-judgment. For a while, I feel like I was being very judgmental of people’s choices and lifestyle. But this attitude puts a much more humble twist on it. I have discovered a truth (at least to me) about diet/lifestyle. I see people who either have not come to that truth (or who don’t care) and are suffering because of it. It doesn’t make me better of a person, just more aware in that area of my life. Thanks for this post; I think it will prompt a lot of good response and introspection among the readers.

  2. Thanks Meaghan. The rights and the wrongs are muddled in a world where the blueprints have been smudged. And so, indeed, what is right for me, that I can’t eat bananas, for example, is not right for everyone, now, here in this very unnatural world.

    But the way nature made us, the way we evolved to be is a certain way. The two issues are kind of at odds. We are meant to be one way, we actually live quite another.

  3. Just be YOU! What other people think reflects their own insecure or glorious nature. What people say indicates their mindset.

  4. I feel this way, too. There are certain things that are clearly true to me. Babies should be breastfed. People should eat natural food. Fresh air is good for us.

    There are things I am not sure about, such as how to educate my child or whether or not I should drink milk.

    I eat healthier than most people I know, but instead of feeling like I am better, I am simply grateful for the knowledge I have that allows me to make good dietary choices. I think choosing an attachment parenting style was a smart thing to do, but it doesn’t make me any better than other parents who choose their parenting methods out of love for their children.

    I love how you are fascinated by math. I am reading Deep Nutrition right now, and there is a chapter that talks about the mathematics of beauty. I got a little lost in the jargon, but I kept thinking, Peggy would totally get this! Speaking of which, I have a math problem I was hoping you could solve for me…

    • Deep Nutrition is such a good book. Dr. Cate is a fantastic writer and thinker. The chapter about faces is compelling and I love many of the things she says there but Marquardt’s math may not have been too solid. You can read about it here. Nevertheless, I do believe that we were designed to be symmetric and that it is important. In nature there is a purpose to things, going in and messing with them – distorting the symmetry of faces – offsets the natural flow of things.

      What is your math problem? Are you in school?

      • Cool thanks for the link. The Marquardt’s mask was interesting but I was wondering how substantial it was.

        The math problem was my own, but re-reading this abstract (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19593333) I realized I read it wrong, so my problem is wrong. I was trying to determine the chances of giving birth to a child that develops autism if the child is a boy and the mother has at least 6 amalgam fillings, and the rate of autism in boys in 1 in 54. But looking back over the study I realize that all the participants had austism and it was studying the chances of severe vs mild autism, not autism vs no autism as I at first thought. I don’t know how I missed that. So, I guess there isn’t enough info to solve my problem :/

  5. Brilliant. I believe that you are wonderful, intelligent and totally together. A breath of fresh air, Keep it up! :)

  6. Very nice. I’ve been criticized all my life for being too “black and white”. I just cannot see shades of grey. I think those of us whose mind works in this manner come across as “more intense” then others bc black and white thinking tends to convey a sense of (like you were saying) absolute conviction in one’s knowledge. Perhaps conviction is derived from this or maybe it’s the other way around-I have no idea. Anyway, it’s cool to see somebody defend this sort of thought pattern.

    • I am definitely intense so people say. That personality type bugs some people.

      There is nothing wrong with having conviction in your knowledge, but there is something wrong with being unable to change when proved wrong or being closed minded. While they often do, the two don’t necessarily have to go together.

    • That’s interesting Daniel. My oldest son thinks in this way, he gets math, he’s intense, and mechanical. He has some very strong convictions for an eight year old, and that is not something he get from me. I don’t understand math at all, and, while I see the world as black and white for me, I tend to believe that others become who they are because of the way their individual personality reacted to environmental factors. I have however, always admired people with such personalities (even my father, whom I could not stand to live with he was so rigid).

      • I definitely agree that people become who they are in that way-to a point, of course. I’ve also been known to go to extremes so, much like everything else, intensity does have its drawbacks. Ive just never been able to do anything halfway-very all or nothing. Anyway, I admire people that can take things to their furthest logical conclusion. Which is why I enjoy reading Peggy’s posts.

  7. Whenever I don’t agree with someone’s actions or life, I just try to think of how beautiful “choice” is.

    Even birds have evolved to “choose”. For example, during mating season, they do not necessarily mate with the male that proved himself stongest than the others – instead, the females mysteriously choose a mate based on how aroused they are by his singing, by his beautiful colors, etc. And most male birds don’t merely settle on the female that chose them, they also choose the one they want.

    Darwin was completely confounded by this and could never fully explain it (of course not all species are able to make choices; see Darwin’s sexual selection theory).

    Humans have evolved with even more complex emotions, resulting in even more complex choices.

    Regarding epistemology (obviously you have an intense interest in philosophy), I wouldn’t neglect Kant’s seminal contribution. The view you’ve proposed has forgotten to include the “subject” of knowing.

    Anyway, too bad we live so far apart (I’m a graduate student in Germany). You are someone that I would love to talk with over coffee!