My new book is just about finished. In a couple of weeks I’ll be sending it off to the publisher, but before I do I need your help.
The book is called Primal Moms Look Good Naked and, while it covers in brutal detail how to reverse and avoid the physical blights of pregnancy, its main focus is on getting back to our ancestral roots in order to create superior health for babies and strength and confidence for mothers.
Contrary to what has become popular belief, a woman’s looks don’t have change all that much after pregnancy. She doesn’t have to lose her fresh and youthful feel. But there is one thing that does have to change no matter how well she eats or how much she exercises: she is now a mother. This is where you come in.
One of the chapters in my book describes the psychological transformations that every new mother goes through. Never having wanted kids to begin with, I underwent a major upheaval myself. I’m sure this experience is valuable, but I am just one person. What a richer chapter it could be if other mothers contributed their own experience!
If you or someone you know had some moving or shocking experience when she became a mother, please let me know about it. I plan to use some real stories and quotes in the chapter. Please think this over carefully as what you say could end up in print!
From Womanhood to Motherhood
The transformation from womanhood to motherhood is a metamorphosis more profound than any other on earth. Having a child elicits more changes both gradual and sudden than anything else could provoke. A new mother will become stronger and more responsible. The challenge of every day life will make her a better problem solver. She will be more loving and her priorities will change.
Responsibility will change her.
One moment only responsible for herself, a mother is now entirely responsible for another human life. In order to do this she must give up certain aspects of herself permanently and take on others that never could have been without the responsibility and love for this new life. Who once was a selfish woman now puts another above her own desires and schedule. Who once was a careless woman, who lived fast and cared not for her life, is now more careful.
Love will change her.
She is now loved and she now loves like never before. Regardless of how many good relationships she has been in and how much love she has felt for those people, she will find that the love for her baby is stronger than any love she’s ever known. If she has never loved or been loved deeply before, she will experience this for the first time now.
Strength will change her.
The confidence and accomplishment that she experiences after laboring and giving birth changes her perception of herself. She now sees herself as someone who can withstand the impossible. She is a stronger woman than she has ever been before.
Her status will change her.
In her new responsibilities she is forced to re-order her role in her family, in her home, with her old friends. She is the boss of someone now, if she wasn’t before. Her family doesn’t see her as a kid anymore. Her outings will change as will her group of friends likely change. The way she dresses probably started changing in pregnancy. After the birth she may become less concerned with the way she looks as her attention is drawn to her baby. Her activities in free time will also change.
Her worries and attention will change her.
She cannot let her baby starve, fall, drown, catch a cold, bang its head, suffocate, freeze, or overheat. She is motivated and moved by these worries. They keep her vigilant. She may become obsessive and possessive as a result of these worries. She may become overwhelmed. She may become overprotective. Who was once a shy or reserved woman, may find herself suddenly bold or presumptuous.
Her job will change her.
She is suddenly a protector and an enabler. It is her job to ensure the safety of her child all day and night and it is also her job to assist the child in becoming what it will some day become. Though she may have never planned it and she might not even put much thought into it now, she will do it everyday of her new life.
These are some condensed thoughts about what happens to us as we raise a child. I’ll save the specifics of my own experience for the book but please leave your comments about yours. (If you do not want to be included in the book but you do want to leave a comment, just add a note to that effect and your wish will be respected.)